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  This frightened Mary, who also wavered under the censorious gaze of the Boston matriarchs. (“What might one expect of a young woman who cut her hair in a sensational Castle bob, wore monkey fur, and fishnet stockings—and worse!—painted her fingernails pink!”) It was more than a year before she sued Dick Peabody for divorce; by that time, the Crosbys had shipped Harry off to France.

  Harry, at 19, had seen his best friend, “Spud” Spaulding, ripped open by artillery fire at Verdun. In his diary, he commemorated that fateful day—November 22, 1917—when he “metamorphose from boy into man” and won the Croix de Guerre. Carrying buckets of amputated limbs from a makeshift operating table, he vowed that if he survived in one piece, he would LIVE the rest of his life—on his own terms. “Most people die of a sort of creeping common sense,” he wrote, “and discover when it’s too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.”

  —BUNNY CAN’T STAND ANOTHER DAY WITHOUT YOU STOP SAILING AQUITANIA STEERAGE STOP ENGAGED BRIDAL SUITE RETURN TRIP STOP SAY YES YOUR HARRY—

  Once determined on a course, he would not give up the chase. He bet his Paris flat-mate, Lou Norrie—booked for a September 1 sailing home—$100 that he could beat Norrie to Manhattan and at last persuade “Polly” Peabody to marry. The odds were even. Lou arrived in New York, and Harry, who had bribed his way aboard the Aquitania, was on the dock to meet him—with Mary. Before she changed her mind, Harry rushed them both to the Municipal Building just before closing on September 9, 1922, where Leonard Jacob, Mary’s younger brother, was waiting to give the bride away. (Norrie stood by with the $100, as promised, for the honeymoon.) There was time for a whirlwind round-trip train ride to Washington, D.C., for a strained audience with the grande dame, Henrietta Crosby (staying with Harry’s married sister, Kitsa), after which Mary reported that she was made to feel like a two-year-old who had gotten into a forbidden jam jar.

  Back in New York, Grandmother Jacob waited at the Belmont with the children’s devoted nanny and the little Peabodys, their small Vuitton suitcases packed for the return trip to Paris.

  “It had to be that way—I wouldn’t leave my children behind,” Mary insisted.

  The passenger manifest listed Mr. and Mrs. Henry Grew Crosby, née Mary Phelps Jacob. Passengers noticed the strung-taut young man with intense blue eyes and the attractive woman by his side, obviously on their honeymoon. Theirs was an unusual ménage. An Irish nanny in sensible shoes shared the adjoining stateroom with a towheaded boy just turning six, and Polleen, a girl of almost five. The 24-year-old groom appeared much too young to be their father. Their mother, Polly, had committed the unthinkable treason of divorcing a scion of one of Boston’s proudest clans, sailing with her two children and star-crossed lover to the City of Light. “I became a rebel when I married Harry,” she often said.

  The Crosbys joined that flock of post-World War I escapists from Puritan backgrounds on Paris’ Left Bank. A revolt was growing among young Americans, disillusioned with provincial stuffiness and mores. The expatriates who alighted near the old church of St. Germain des Près were the vanguard of Gertrude Stein’s so-called “Lost Generation.” (The difference was that Harry’s Uncle Jack (J. Pierpont) Morgan provided a post with the family bank on the Place Vendôme, and his cousin, Walter Berry, intimate friend of Marcel Proust and Edith Wharton, promised letters of introduction to the gratin, gratin of the Faubourg St. Germain.)

  Fresh off the boat, the young Crosbys took furnished rooms at the Hôtel de l’Université, near the Sorbonne. There were two stuffy cubicles with paper-thin walls—smaller and less glamorous than the boat—and too close together to obliterate the children’s noisy laughter during their parents’ passionate lovemaking. Harry’s first diary entry following the wedding noted a popular French novel of that day, Les Desenchantées. In the margin he wrote in his elliptical scrawl, “Am I?” Harry really wanted an experienced married mistress, not the mother of two. And Mary’s loyalty was forever divided between love for her children and infatuation with Harry. Harry usually won out.

  At last—with the help of Morgan et Cie.—Mary found more suitable housing for their ménage on the bourgeois rue Belles Feuilles, where the children would be out of sight when Harry came home—for breakfast, lunch, and dinner—ready for amour. By blocking a door from the front hall to the nursery, Mary solved many problems. But to see the children, she had to go around back through the kitchen, up the back stairs. That routine worked rather well, with one compromise—twice a week, the children were allowed to play jumping games in the sacrosanct boudoir before the bonne à tout faire changed the sheets. One Friday, Harry returned early from the bank with college chums and viewed the lively scene.

  “My God! What a nursery!” he howled. His face flushed scarlet with anger. He did not return for three days.

  Mary, devastated, thought her marriage had ended as spontaneously as it had begun. But to Harry’s credit, when he did come back he was laden with gifts for the children and a cloth-of-gold Mandarin coat for Mary.

  Polleen later recalled her life “blessed and burdened by eccentric, wildly self-indulgent parents.” The first time Harry really noticed her:

  I was about six years old at the time, sitting on the steps taking off my shoes, when Harry suddenly appeared.

  “Why are you taking off your shoes?” he asked.

  “So you can’t hear me,” I answered, eyes downcast.

  “I’m not supposed to make noise.”

  He thought that was hilariously funny. Immediately, he scooped me up and put my shoes on and rushed me off to the Ritz Bar. It amused him that other customers looked on disapprovingly, as I was given glass after glass of champagne until I was giddy. I was taken home absolutely blotto. That was the beginning of our friendship.

  Mary was determined to avoid future escapades at the Ritz Bar. She sent Nanny home and hired a French widow; Mme. Doursenaud, as governess. The much-beloved petite mére was rechristened “Doosenoose” by the children, and for several years, she provided the love and attention their parents never found time for. Polleen and her brother Billy were packed off with Doosenoose to the more wholesome environment of a pension near Versailles that summer.

  With the children away, the long-delayed, romantic honeymoon began. They moved to a dramatic setting on the Île St. Louis, the towers of Nôtre Dame framed between their bedroom windows. Harry’s transportation problem was easily solved by tying a red canoe below at the dock on the Quai d’Orleans. At 8:15 each morning, Mary climbed into her bathing costume, and with Harry stashed in the stern, she paddled their “crimson bark” to the Plâce de la Concorde. Harry stepped off with his briefcase to walk a few blocks to the Banque Morgan. Mary pulled hard against the oars going home upstream: “Good for the breasts,” she said, when whistles greeted her from the bridges overhead. While Harry was at the Bank, Mary loved browsing and marketing in the twisty back streets of the Île. Every night was like room 943 at the Belmont all over again. Harry recorded in his diary: “Pink intimate nightgown. Kissing. Loving. Over the top with Polly!! Marvelous!”

  A Puritan conscience was inexplicably missing from Mary’s passionate nature. Once awakened, she enjoyed a pagan’s sensual delight in lovemaking. She was a giver, and she could never give enough to the man she loved—at that moment. “Once one has known rapture, security is not enough,” she explained to her critics. The reason she left Boston and Dick Peabody was clearly not because of Dick’s drinking problem. It was “to marry the man I love.” From the first moment to the last—only seven short years—“My love for Harry blinded me like a sunrise. It joined me to him indivisibly, like wind to storm,” she recalled 30 years later.

  When the leaves began to turn that autumn, and the chestnut vendors set up their stalls on the streets, the Crosbys moved to Pavillion No.1, rue Boulard, behind the historic Cimetiêre Montparnasse. Mary fantasized about the lovers on the tombs who were joined in eternal rep
ose. The Pavillion was only two rooms deep, but it had a picket fence, a garden gate, a vegetable plot, trees, a sundial, and a flagged terrace to remind them of home.

  Harry remained irrevocably opposed to any signs of domesticity. At his suggestion, the outside tool shed was reserved for the nursery. (That Polleen did not catch pneumonia, Mary admitted, was a “tribute to her cheery adaptability.”) After the first year, Billy was trundled off to one elite boarding school after another—Le Rosay in Switzerland, later Cheam in Surrey.

  Several years of cramped quarters in furnished flats became increasingly difficult, until Mary discovered new lodgings in a more accessible and orderly part of Paris—”accessible for Harry and orderly for me,” she commented. Thus her New England upbringing triumphed briefly. They settled into an 18th-century hôtel (townhouse/mansion) at 19 rue de Lille, in the aristocratic Faubourg St. Germain quartier where the characters in Proust’s novels might have lived, loved and entertained. No. 19 has been designated an historic monument with a plaque commemorating Charles Fioquet, Deputé de Paris, qui est mort dans cette maison 16 janvier 1896. Christie’s, the prestigious auction house, occupies the ornate building next door. Then as now hôtels were converted into three-storied apartments, the entrances marked by massive doors between columns topped by large sandstone urns overflowing with chiseled fruit and garlands of flowers. There is a vast porte-cochêre with a concierge’s lodging on one side of the courtyard paved with cobblestones. In the past, elegant horse-drawn carriages drew up to the marble steps. Through vaulted windows which face on the small, formal garden in the rear, one can still see sculpted woodwork and crystal chandeliers perilously dangling from bas-relief ceilings.

  The children, when home, and servants were banished to the rez-de-chausée near the entrance. Up the first flight of stairs was a formal drawing room seldom used a vast, so-called Sicilian dining room, master bedroom, and bath. The latter was an ornate affair with inlaid wood and a fireplace, the massive, sunken marble tub large enough to accommodate the Crosbys and several guests.

  On the third floor, Harry’s library ran the length of the wing, with three windows opening onto the balcony overlooking the narrow rue, so narrow that the mansard roof of the building opposite almost overlapped. Harry called his library the tour grise, not only because of its gray walls, but because of the collected clutter—animal skins, spears, chests, ship models and a skeleton, its St. Jerome’s head with hollow ghoul’s eyes welcoming trepidatious intruders.

  The exchange rate had risen from 5 to 22 francs to the dollar when Archibald MacLeish, an old friend, visited them. He remembered that the rue de Lille menage was “very comfortable, but not grand or grandiose” for its time and place. The Crosbys had evolved a comfortable “Upstairs, Downstairs” way of life, reminiscent of Beacon Street, adapted to the unconventional milieu in which they now lived.

  Their good friend Gerard Lymington (later Earl of Portsmouth) recalled his most vivid memories of the 1920s at 19 rue de Lille, where one might meet André Gide, or Hart Crane, or Goops the Gunman, models from Chanel, bookies or photographers, artists or Archibald MacLeish; where the party that began on Wednesday persisted throughout the weekend. Guests were “a purée of wit, beauty, and bitchery.” (Mary herself was absolutely without malice, her friends agreed, but she was quoted often as saying that “a woman without bitchery is like milk without Vitamin D!”)

  “Paris is a bitch,” amended novelist Robert McAlmon, one of their frequent guests, a chronicler of the Paris scene. “One shouldn’t become infatuated with bitches . . . particularly when they have wit, imagination, experience, and tradition behind their ruthlessness.”

  The next year, Harry decided to resign from the Bank to devote his entire efforts to writing poetry. In Mary’s view, the life of a poet promised more immediate joy and possible fame than the life of a partner of Morgan et Cie., with “a fat income and a life on the Park Avenues of the world.” (“Money weighed very little in the balance of my decisions . . . our inherited incomes of a few thousand dollars were carrying us along very nicely. . . .”) Tongue-in-cheek, they wired Harry’s father in Boston: “Sell ten thousand in stock. We have decided to live mad and extravagant lives.”

  In Stephen Crosby’s view, his son had committed the second deadly sin of dipping into capital to become a dilettante. His reply: “I assume that the idea of your writing poetry as a life’s work is a joke. . . .”

  Some 3,000 miles away, the young Crosbys were indeed serious about poetry. Inspired by a recent reading of T.S. Eliot’s The WasteLand, Harry replied to his father:

  . . . Perhaps it is: “we intend to lead mad and extravagant lives” that upset you. . . . There is, I think, a crime in ending life the way so many people do, with a whimper. When we think of the comets and meteors and the moon and the stars and planets and the sun all whirling far above us in the great harmony of the spheres, how trivial become dinner parties and auction bridge . . . the investing and selling of stock. For the poet, there is love and there is death . . . and for other things to assume such vital importance is out of the question . . . that is why I refuse to take the question of money seriously.

  Harry found his champion and mentor in his cousin, Walter Berry, a distinguished man of letters respected in Parisian social and literary circles. Even Stephen Van Rensselaer Crosby could not look down his aristocratic beak at Walter Van Rensselaer Berry, himself descended from General Stephen Van Rensselaer and the original patroon of New York.

  At 76, Berry was the epitome of elegance in an Edwardian morning coat, striped trousers and highly polished black-button shoes, his small head poised above a high wing-collar “like a brilliant bird, given to sudden turnings and bright glances.” In an enduring friendship and lifelong correspondence with Marcel Proust, the novelist had written to Berry: “You must choose the art wherein it seems . . . most creditable to have displayed an ‘unrivaled ability.’ Is it eloquence? Is it style? You have so many intellectual gifts that one is confronted with the difficulty of making a choice.”

  Berry advised his young cousin to follow his own inclinations: “I’m so glad you chucked the Bank! If this keeps up, you’ll have better things in your account that fat $$$’s,” Berry wrote. Thus began a surrogate father-and-son relationship that continued until Berry’s death four years later, when Harry was designated to take charge of the pomp and circumstance of Berry’s funeral cortége and became the legatee of his magnificent library of rare books.

  Until Harry discovered Cousin Walter, Uncle Jack Morgan had been the greatest man in America in his nephew’s eyes. But despite the Morgan bank loan of two billion dollars to France and the other war-ravaged countries of Europe, Harry now wrote to his mother: “Uncle Jack is as unstimulating as Berry is stimulating. Uncle Jack is interesting to talk to, but altogether devoid of the spark which inspires.”

  Berry viewed his cousin as unshaped clay that he took pleasure in molding. In his new role as mentor, he suggested that Harry write a biography of Rimbaud, one of their mutual passions. He advised Harry to “put aside daily hours for work and stick to them regularly,” if he wished to become a poet.

  A lifelong bachelor, Berry was gallant with women and enjoyed amorous flirtations with the young belles of the day. He responded warmly to the admiration of his cousin’s vivacious wife, and invited Mary to sit at the head of the table when he entertained at his stately mansion on the rue de Varenne, thus displacing Edith Wharton who, having given up hope of a brilliant marriage to Berry, had settled into the role of official hostess.

  “By our background, we were privileged, by our actions we were ostracized: but [for our work], we gradually came to be recognized,” Mary wrote. Her creative bent was first manifested in sculpture under the renowned master, Antoine Bourdelle, at the Ateliér de la Grande Chaumière, where she held her own among far more gifted students, Isamu Noguchi and Alberto Giacometti. There, she sculpted the most revealing likeness of Harry extan
t, a glimpse of the private person behind the façade, a look that only she could capture: “more expression and mood than man, electric with rebellion.” At the atelier she began lifelong friendships with other painters and artists and the master, Fernand Lèger, who inspired the renowned coterie.

  As a lonely child, she confided her innermost thoughts and feelings to verse, but she never considered these immature outpourings publishable. That summer, in a little whitewashed villa at Êtretat (“square, like a cube of Domino sugar”) perched among rocky cliffs and dunes with gulls swooping overhead—the view that inspired a generation of Impressionist painters and poets—Mary took up her pen again.

  Harry cherished a photograph that dates back to that time, side by side, their hands linked, with Mary in profile smiling adoringly at Harry. He inscribed it prophetically: “You and me at Êtretat. It is perfect, and if we ever get to be famous, we should destroy all others in favor of this one.” Mary appears strikingly contemporary in a sleeveless plaid cotton sundress with blouson top, skirt falling just below the knee to reveal sun-browned skin; an Oriental-print parasol protecting her eyes against the glare of the hot noonday sun. Harry, in a rumpled white double-breasted suit (carelessly cut, falling two inches above his shoe tops), squints nearsightedly into the light. There is no distinguishing characteristic to mark this photo above all others, save as a remembrance of a happy time; they were just embarking on new careers and particularly in tune with each other, in full sun. Estrangement and the variable storms of winter would come later. But the diary entry for that summer interlude recorded: “Mary . . . looking very pretty and younger than ever. Everyone adores her . . . I most of all.”